Why Meditations on Love Are Popular (And Potentially Harmful)

People seek the key to happiness through meditations aimed at attracting love, a beloved person, and family well-being. The information space offers an abundance of such techniques. Do they work, and are they as harmless as promised? This article addresses these questions.

The audience using such practices is predominantly women; therefore, the content is mainly directed towards them. Men will also gain useful insights into who shapes "love settings," what is often confused with love, the laws governing relationships in pairs, and what state brings the greatest satisfaction.

Reasons for the popularity on ‘heart’ meditations:

1. Ignorance about the concept of love.

   Love cannot be categorized as feelings or emotions. It is not conditioned by a connection with any specific person. It is an activity of the soul's forces that defines one's attitude toward the world, rather than toward a single individual. If you love only one person and are indifferent to others, this cannot be called love. Most people believe that to be happy, it is enough to "attract" the right object—this is a mistaken belief.

2. Infantilism.

   Love is a basic need. But a healthy and immature person closes it in different ways. When the need for intimacy is not met, the adult does not try to solve the issue at the expense of others, but works on herself.

   It's hard for someone who's in a childish position to be alone. He will rush into a relationship thinking that he would be happy if there was someone else around. Someone who will fulfil his needs.

   Think about the wording used in these ‘romantic’ meditations:

   «…If you want to become attractive…». Just pick up and become, effortlessly! «Listen this meditation every day…». How easy! You don't have to watch your diet, lifestyle, study, clear your mind, go through conflicts, compromise.

3. «God syndrome».

   Exaggerated feelings of personal ability, advantage, infallibility.When a persona thinks she deserves better, that life is unfair, you have to take everything fr om life.

   The turns of speech used in love meditations indicate the exorbitant pride of the practitioner:

   «…Connect with the person destined in this incarnation’, “...to attract the person sent by God”. If someone is intended and sent by God, why do we need to ‘attract’ this person on purpose?

   “...To gain confidence that you deserve sincere warm feelings.” Do you really deserve it? Wh ere does such certainty in your purity come from?

4. External influences

   The necessity of love is exploited by interested forces that introduce myths about "true, ideal love" into society. Media examples of "genuine" love offer a tempting version—suffering, sacrificial love filled with emotional turmoil.

   In reality, emotional turmoil and suffering are the antithesis of healthy closeness. Energy is not directed toward creation and spiritual growth but rather toward striving for some ideal that "settles" in one's mind. In pursuit of this ideal, individuals resort to everything, including meditations....

   Such people are not satisfied with those already around them. Since the love most aspire to is a program in their heads implanted by pop culture algorithms.

   Historian Carol Dyhouse tells how, a century ago, generations of girls living in difficult rural conditions fantasised about a companion who would treat them like a father confessor, who would understand the subtlety of their natures.

   In the post-war years, many books were written and films were made about a happy family life where a woman is a carefree housewife. At that time, women who found it difficult to get an education and a decent job began to dream of a profitable marriage with a man who could provide the maintenance of an ideal home and the creation of an ideal family. It was assumed that doctors, lawyers, entrepreneurs were the best suited.

   In 10-20 years, more and more girls were getting higher education and building a rebellious life. There were other ambitions and expectations fr om men: they liked rock stars, rebels, revolutionaries.

   In the 80s, tabloid novels were actively distributed, reading which women were literally infected with lust. A life of debauchery began.

   With the spread of the Internet, new horizons have opened up. Women began to dream of ‘happiness beyond the seven seas’, started travelling and dreaming of marrying a foreigner.

   The story continues...

   Do I choose whom to love? Wh ere is the guarantee that in a few years I will not be disappointed in the love I am trying so hard to attract?

Under the influence of external information and upbringing, codependency, selfish desires, passions, and attachments are often mistaken for love—a powerful experience based on possession, control desires, lust, and novelty. Such feelings are certainly short-lived.

A series of unspoken conditions are imposed on partners: I will love you only if you make me feel good; you will not communicate with anyone else; you will obey me; you will sacrifice something for me...

A person conditioned similarly may agree to such terms. In such a pair, things are bad but people stay together because both have unspoken conditions that their partner fulfills (secondary gain).

This is called codependency, where one partner becomes the center of the universe. The partner determines mood, well-being, self-esteem, productivity plans of the other partner.

A lack of love creates hunger. The hungry are willing to accept any conditions. They begin to lie and pretend. Sometimes they think that the price for love is too high; it’s better alone. Therefore people continue to oscillate between loneliness and love.

In a state of "hunger," women grasp at meditations aimed at attracting their beloved man like a straw. They unconsciously use men they meditate on for their purposes.

Men resolve this issue in their own way, often also through manipulation

Lust

Love is often mistaken for sexual desire - the desire to satisfy sexual feelings. The desire to seize, to appropriate. The history of mankind is crowned with crimes committed under the onslaught of this energy.

The mythical hunter Actaeon saw Artemis bathing. The goddess was angry and turned him into a deer, which was mauled by her own dogs. What does the myth say?

Sexual energy, accompanied by true love, is sublimated and, flowing into the stream of cosmic magnetism, is spent on building the Cosmos.

If only gross lust (an animal property) takes place, that energy stays with the one who generated it.

In the form of creation on the subtle plane. Creation that is not befitting the level of its creator (Man of Reason) must be processed by man himself. Otherwise, he descends to the level of his lowly creation.

Energised by the power of their creator's thought, these creations come to life and become entities of the subtle plane. They begin to demand food, prompting man to the same actions that formed them. If he gives in to temptation, they grow, taking root in the subtle body. Even after the physical death of the host, this subtle body remains. In a new incarnation it is united with a new physical body. Thus, life after life the newborn becomes Actaeon.

The energy meant for evolution is spent on being in animal spheres, turning Actaeon into a weak animal. He flees from his passions, but they catch up with him and ‘gnaw him to death’. Unable to transform his spawns he is consumed by them. Joining these entities, man becomes matter, beyond the control of the spirit, loses the will to self-development. Matter, deprived of spirit, decomposes, which is considered to be true death.

Is this what I want, turning to ‘harmless’ meditations on attracting my beloved and beloved's beloved?

On the evolutionary path mankind stands in the middle: people, being carriers of the Supreme Intelligence, are still subject to animal passions. The task of everyone is to overcome the animal nature, to become truly Human.

The difference of the beginnings draws them to each other to merge and reach the primal state (Pralaya). This longing for the state ‘before separation’ is love. In the process of love, the unmanifested is manifested. Just as a child is conceived when the poles of physical bodies come together, so also worlds are conceived.

Love opens up new things, helps us to know ourselves better and to know the other. This intimacy differs from ‘neurotic’ intimacy in that it is more free. When you truly love, you feel understood, accepted and able to be yourself.

Love cannot be ‘hinted at’ or taken from somewhere. You can only get into the vibration of love, but you have to match it.

1. A receptivity to receiving love, but an inability to give it back.

   When a child is born, it feels the love of other, ‘more advanced beings’. It feels good. But as long as he is selfish, he is ready only to take. Along with this, the child has to experience the selfishness of other, heartless people. This is repulsive, but it shows the difference between the absence and presence of love, teaches him to appreciate intimacy, and stimulates him to develop his own feelings.

   Many, even as adults, remain at this stage.

2. Sensitivity to receiving love and partial ability to give it back.

   When a child is absorbed by the warmth of others, he's ready to give. So far, only to those people who loved him first. Those who behaved selfishly with him will be enemies. Those with whom he has not come in contact will cause indifference. At this stage he is passionate in love, but when the emotion passes - hatred, resentment come. Conditional, co-dependent love. It doesn't depend on age either.

3. Willingness to give and receive love.

   Love for all living beings, including those who cause suffering. The stage of unconditional love spoken of by enlightened Masters.

To climb the evolutionary ladder, a man needs the qualities of a woman, and a woman needs the qualities of a man. When loving each other, the qualities of masculine and feminine beginnings unite and enhance the creative potential of both. That is why the attraction of the sexes is so strong.

The consciousness can be so clouded that it closes the ‘legal’ way to meeting through natural rapprochement, but pushes to manipulations like specific meditations. Under the influence of dark energies, the individual thinks that he or she needs just such a partner and tries to ‘attract’ him or her. Realising the mistake, he breaks the union and looks for a new one. Such active searches, ‘attracting’ love through trials and errors lead to degradation.

A man and a woman meet, exchange energies, create a connection. During sexual contact, a man leaves in a woman ‘the imprint of his double’, a certain void. And the woman fills this void with her energy throughout her life, even if there is no physical contact anymore. The man siphons off energy from his double as needed. The woman fills it again with her energy.

This is the way nature intended: a woman fuels her man energetically, and he helps her in the material world, takes care of her, protects her. Being loving and faithful, they form a strong, creative couple.

When people meet and separate, they do not take into account that on the subtle plane leaving is impossible. There is no statute of limitations and distance. A woman continues to give energy to all her men, a man receives energy from all his women.

Giving much, a woman does not have time to fill the structures of her soul with the necessary energy. At first, she has time to saturate them only with lower primary matter, which ‘reformat’ her essence under the properties of the lower astral. Then a woman can conduct only these, lower vibrations. These same lower astral energies come to the man. In time a woman will not have enough time for this: her body will start to get sick, her soul will decay.

In order not to fall for the promising hooks of love meditations, it is necessary to understand that not all dreams belong to us. It is important to realise that not all dreams are ours, but they can lead us to do things that we may regret.

Meditation really works, there is nothing supernatural about it. If you influence certain centres by twisting the energy flows in the right way, you can attract any idol by concentrating on it. The main thing is to have enough energy.

It used to be called black magic, today it is called in beautiful words ‘meditation to attract a loved one’.

What happens at the moment of such meditation? The fantasiser himself spends energy and involves his ‘beloved’ in the process of pumping out the life potential. The released energy is redirected to the lower astral entities.

Whence then the feeling of happiness and joy in those who meditate on love, if the energy goes away? In the comments to the videos you can find thousands of messages about how great girls feel after such practices.

The ‘astral parasite’ sends part of the stolen life force back to the meditator, exciting his pleasure centre to the utmost. This illusion of positive feelings is the main tool of ‘astral parasites’.

It's addictive in a way akin to a drug.

The scheme is simple:

1. By experiencing strong emotions, the meditator opens up maximally. ‘Opening’ in the aura allows the maximum amount of life force to be downloaded in a minimum amount of time.
2. Remembering strong emotions, a person is already voluntarily feeding the parasites with their thoughts.

What happens to the person being focused on

Through dubious meditations there is a rough invasion of the aura of another individual. Depending on his stability, it is possible to subjugate him to one's will. Such a person appears in the life of the meditator and even creates a family with him.

However, an external energy attack leads to changes in a person's consciousness:

• Career collapses. Constantly thinking about the woman meditating on him, the man loses touch with the real world, concentration and attention.
• Your sense of self-preservation is dulled. A person gets into dangerous, life-threatening situations.
• Difficulties with friends and family. The character of the person being focused on changes for the worse, loved ones stop understanding him or her.
• Illnesses come. Unable to withstand the psychic violence perpetrated on him, the victim of meditation becomes ill, starts drinking, may even take his own life.
• Subconsciously feeling the perpetrator of his suffering, a person becomes aggressive towards the one who has attracted it. The victim will try to get out from under the influence by destroying its source. This is why husbands in such families are often aggressive towards their wives.

‘Love Meditation’ is a violent subjugation of the psyche of the individual. Any violence is balanced and returned. There are no mistakes in the universe.

In response to the intrusion into another person's energy structures comes the opposite wave:

• Deterioration of health.
• Bad luck at work.
• An aggressive or broken partner nearby.
• Sick, unsuccessful children, unable to procreate.

The reason for this is ‘innocent’ meditation. It is not without reason that in all spiritual traditions it is forbidden to influence the will of others.

If the structures of male and female essences are qualitatively compatible at all levels, there is a love as a feeling involving responsibility for each other's fate. In such a couple they are enriched. Everything becomes more: energy, love, prosperity, morality. Both receive additional potential from the other, and there is an exchange of qualities between the male and female essence, without which the evolutionary development of each is impossible.

For a harmonious union it is important to match the body, soul and spirit of the partner: people should like each other's appearance and character, they should inspire each other and move together on the path of self-development.

Intimacy out of love of the highest order in the presence of the utmost possible abstinence enhances the couple's higher aspirations.

It is rare nowadays, because there is too much negative karma accumulated. But it motivates to self-development, to raising the level of one's own vibrations. If the energy is concentrated on the lower chakras, such a union wastes the energy of both of them, higher creativity becomes impossible.

If there is no partner to create a spiritual couple

Karmic circumstances often manifest the absence of a suitable partner. Unbridled instinct, self-interest, spontaneous incompatibility and other reasons for illicit marriages in the past have produced strong bonds. Now people are attracted to each other not as partners for spiritual development, but as karmic debtors.

In an imperfect union, the challenge is to raise one's morality and awareness and pay off karmic debts. One has to change oneself in the circumstances that one has. Through manifesting a better attitude towards those one encounters on a daily basis.

If there is no companion yet, it is better to go alone, despite the difficulties of the solitary path, than to resort to magic. Continue to grow spiritually, so that the same spiritually developed partner appears.

Self-development as the key to a happy union

Having failed to receive the obligatory portion of attention from significant others in childhood, a person makes up for the deficit in all subsequent relationships: friendships, students, professional, romantic relationships. If the ‘inner child’ is not satisfied with the closeness of the parents, then no matter how hard the individual tries to build a healthy partnership, they will fall into co-dependency.

‘Inner child’ is rarely satisfied, even if the family is loving: karmic reasons prevent the perception of the flow of love. So there is no point in blaming parents, environment.

It is important, as an adult, to learn to recognise and fulfil one's psychological needs independently, without compromising others. This is the basis of mental health. In this sense, everyone is lonely and must learn to make themselves happy. Then there is filling, and out of this filling arises the need to share one's happiness with another, to create something new. A reasonable balance of give and take is a healthy union.

About self-love

It is impossible to jump over the first stages of the development of love, to love the whole world at once. The exception is advanced souls who have already accumulated rich experience in previous incarnations.

Most people need to learn to feel themselves first in order to develop the skill of love. It is necessary to know oneself first. Without self-love, it is impossible to love others. Self-love does not mean that one is better than another and has the right to infringe on the rights of others by satisfying one's own desires. To love oneself means to recognise one's needs, to distinguish feelings from thoughts, the needs of the soul from the desires of the ego. The same skill helps to understand the feelings of another.

Connection from the position of ‘I don't know what I want, so I will live by your interests’ - co-dependence and, to put it harshly, a parasitic way of life. One settles in the other, stopping the development of both.

The foundation of healthy harmonious relationships with people is living from the interests of your essence and including others in the sphere of your interests. As equals. Then motivation for development appears, and intensive work on oneself begins.

• Loving-Kindness Metta Meditation can help you to understand the essence of love.

  This practice helps to become free from destructive qualities, to accept oneself, to love.

• Recognise your specificities.

  Do not compare yourself with other people, but compare yourself with the Highest Element. In comparison with it, all people are imperfect. This understanding is liberating, it allows you to accept your own imperfections and more easily relate to the imperfections of others.

• Recognise yourself as part of humanity.

  The well-being of the individual is linked to the well-being of all people. Food, clothing and the benefits of civilisation come from the work of others. This realisation expands the horizons of love.

• Communicate with loving people.

  Environment influences thoughts and feelings. Communicating with those who have already developed love is inspiring and helps to redirect thoughts in a positive direction.

• Do household chores with total immersion.

  Through everyday activities, man also manifests the highest creativity. It is useful to learn how to make your bed perfectly, brush your teeth, cook your food, comb your child's hair perfectly, darn your socks. Such creativity differs from pedantry in that it is not created out of rigid rules and formality, but from the depths of one's being.

• Doing something on a daily basis without getting anything in return.

All pleasures can produce subsequent sadness. Every event, even a very pleasant one, can lead to pain. Before something is obtained, the feverish desire for it causes pain. When it is obtained, the fear of loss becomes painful. Once the “possession” is gone, the memory of the joy of possession again causes pain.

Love can also hurt. When a person in love possesses the object of love, the “bought thing” syndrome can happen. It means that the object of love can become boring. Or the other way, that object can become an addiction.

Only by renunciation can one truly love. To what degree you are detached, to what degree you are able to love. Love and detachment seem to be opposites, but they are two sides of the same coin.

Detachment strengthens love, frees it from possessiveness. Without detachment, love is suffering. Detachment brings contentment.

With the realisation of the omnipresence of pain comes the desire to do something to eradicate the cause of pain. The true cause of pain is individualisation, possessiveness, forgetting one's own essence.

The observer is separated from everything around him, nothing belongs to him — such knowledge helps to eliminate pain. Meditation on impermanence helps to develop this understanding. .